YAY! Finally! 2018 has been one hell of a ride and I can’t wait for it to be over. Hmm, maybe we say that every year.
The thing about the New Year coming is we feel we’re being given a fresh start and that’s why we go mad about resolutions and feel like for some reason this year is going to be different. Everything we haven’t been able to do in all our past years are going to happen this year. We’re going to feel amazing.
Why? Because its 2019. It has some magic that 2018 didn’t have.
This is our year – right?
Don’t set yourself up for failure like that.
Don’t think suddenly just because the New Year is coming that it means your life is going to change miraculously.
Nothing changes just because of one number change.
We have to make the change actively. But not all at once.
In my opinion, that’s where we go wrong.
Naturally, we have more than one thing in our lives that we want to change. Eat healthier, get fitter, make more money, travel more, hang out with friends more often. And we have even more specific goals and we get excited and we want to do it all.
I think to avoid the inevitable overwhelm, it’s better to break it down. I divide our lives into 7 important areas:
- Health (mental, emotional, physical)
- Career and Finance
- Relationships – family and friends
- Love life
- Spiritual or Religious
- Creativity and Legacy
- Fun and Recreation
(Note: Creativity/Legacy – can be seen as the area where you can allow your creativity of form of expression to come through, your interests and skills you want to share with the world. What you want to be known for and what you want to leave behind in the world).
You’re probably doing quite well in a few of those areas but you might be thinking of some that you want to work on, and that’s okay. But just don’t try to do them all together. Each of those are big enough areas as it is, so you should only pick one of them and define your main goal within it.
For example if you choose Career and Finance – your goal might be to find a new job and make x amount of money for theyear.
This alone requires several steps to achieve and it can be far too overwhelming if you’re also trying to cook all your now gluten-free meals, hit the gym 5x a week, travel every other weekend and start a spiritual journey to heaven! Damn!
Instead, focus on that one goal and spend the first couple of months of 2019 doing just that. Make small changes, introduce a new habit that will get you closer to that goal.
A few months in, you might find you’ve achieved the goal or you’ve got the ball rolling enough that now you feel like it’s just second nature (a bit like how you’re already doing with your other ‘good areas’ of your life).
At this point, you’re more than equipped to handle another area.
Sometimes, we have small enough goals within these areas that perhaps we can pick a few at a time. So go for it! But just remember when you are setting your goals – use the SMART system.
Make sure your goals have these components:
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Attainable
R – Relevant & Realistic
So you don’t just want to eat healthier.
No, you want to eat home-cooked, unprocessed, fresh gluten-free meals three times a week for the month of January.
That goal now covers all those areas.
And another great tip is to review your goal at the end of each month and see how the progress is and make adjustments to make it work better. Perhaps you’ll find 3 times a week was too easy or too unrealistic with your current schedule so you can amend it for February.
Goals shouldn’t be set on a whim, they take real thought and time. And with good planning, there’s no reason why you can’t achieve them.
I’ve put together a goal-setting planner for 2019. It asks you just a few questions about each area of your life, so you can have all your goals ready for when you can start taking them up.
It’s printable and free to download. Just sign up to my monthly newsletter in the sidebar and you’ll get it straight to your email inbox.
Good luck and Happy New Year everyone!